Russell is on a program at school that encourages focused and responsible behavior. He earns points and school dollars for doing his part. This is part of a conversation we had yesterday after he received his tally for the week so far…
Russell: This contract is cra..
Me: Russel! Don’t you finish that word!
Russell: It’s not fair!
Me: What’s not fair?
Russell: I worked really hard to get all good marks on this contract and I didn’t get any (school) dollars! What is the point of being good if I don’t get anything? (at this point he is in tears)
Me: Russell, it’s not always about what thing you get from it. It’s about you making the effort and progressing in your behavior. Doesn’t it feel good to know that you did what you were told the 1st time without us having to remind you and then reprimand you for not doing it at all?
Blank stare at this point. You can see the wheels turning in his head.
Russell: Well, yea.
Me: Then that should be enough. The reward really is knowing you did a good job. You should be proud.
Russell: I think I’ll be prouder when they give me the dang (school) dollars.
Sometimes I wish I could have the reasoning of a 6-year-old.